I'm flat using the eyeroll emoji -
Honor has minimal place and value in our society today and certainly no bearing on the legal reality of our world. Sorry, but I, for one, do not feel that
not acting in a situation that is not in the best interest of myself and my family compromises my personal honor. I work - every day - to take care of my wife, my family, and to be a productive member of our society. Intervening in what has the potential to be a suicidal attempt is the opposite of "dying well", it's "dying foolishly". And to do so is less honorable than to limit yourself to your own ability. If I get killed saving a domestic abuse victim from assault, my wife, my family, and my community aren't going to be better for it. Quite the contrary, I will have, deliberately, cut short my potential contributions to our society. My students, my mentees, my niece and nephews, all denied the ability to learn, grow, and become better people - because I "died well".
There is no glory and honor in death as you envision it, only suffering. Am I proposing that you Yeager it into the nearest ditch and leave your friends to die when the fire is incoming. Nope, not at all, at that point, you get into the fight, charge the contact, and fight to your last breath. But there is a difference between wisely engaging in an exchange and doing something stupid.
As for expecting someone else to come to your aid. I
NEVER expect someone else to come to my aid that doesn't know me. I've even had "friends" abandon me when shit got real and violent. I'm well versed in the reality that you may go alone to face violence. To think contrary to this, is to construct a wholly artificial and fallacious concept that you will have backup when the time comes. You probably won't. And when it's all said and done, if you use violence AND you survive, you'll be shunned by a society that pretends violence is never a solution to a problem (where as, it often is a solution). Offering to give the only thing you have, your life, for an unrecognized, unrealistic, frame of glory and honor - is the height of arrogance.
I say this and I mean it. Each person must make their own decision regarding these types of situations. Some may be bound by more than a personal code to report/respond/intervene. BUT do not make these decisions based on external delusions of communal acceptance, honor, or support. Few will light a candle for your memorial, and fewer still will remember you as a martyr. If you choose to give up your own life, it is because you personally choose to do so. Our society is not asking you to. If we do ask you too...you'll know, because we'll send out a draft notice.