Originally Posted by
Mitch
Father of 3 under 5 years old and BJJ black belt here.
How far away is your gym? Best thing I did was cut down my commute time. Life got a lot better when I was able to train hard for an hour and not be gone for three hours. I can stop at home, make dinner for the family, go roll and be back in time to put kids to bed. I’m super lucky to have a gym 5 minutes from my house but it was absolutely game changing for me.
Then some of it is what you prioritize. I like shooting, bjj, hunting, archery, motorcycles…you get my drift. Think I have time for all of that? Not even close. So you have two options really…dabble in a few things and accept some degree of mediocrity in them, or pick one and rip the dick out of it. Now, with a family that still may only mean 2-3 times a week like you said, but if that’s the best you can do so be it. It’s still better than nothing at all. You can supplement with online instructionals, but that’s not my jam personally.
Now, here’s the most important part. My wife is awesome. She knows I’m a better person and father if I get some bjj in a couple times a week. The flip side to that is I don’t abuse it and go all the time, and we make sure she has time to do whatever she needs to recharge, too.