IMHO Jesus and God do not expect total selflessness from us.
Evidence:
1) Jesus said, love your neighbour as yourself.
2) Matthew 19:
17 “Why do you ask me about what is good?” Jesus replied. “There is only One who is good. If you want to enter life, keep the commandments.”
21 Jesus answered, “If you want to be perfect, go, sell your possessions and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven. Then come, follow me.”
Means to me: Jesus-like agape is perfection. But Jesus does not expect perfection from us. Paul wrote (Epheser 2:8) and Martin Luther taught (sola gratia), God's grace is amazing. Keeping the 10 commandments is important and good.