My wife used to be a member of the Olympic team and a professional athlete for a long time. She is still extremely athletic. I tried to talk her into shooting with me. She told me that she was mentally exhausted from competition after all those years and couldn't do it anymore. She told me that would be impossible for her to casually participate in it. I totally understand her. I personally know a couple guys who quit completely because they couldn't find the time anymore to train as much as needed and they didn't want to casually fuck around once in a while...
I try to remove my ego from the process and it's not easy. Interestingly my performance is always better when I am able to do that. I was not able to train for over 7 months because of the new job and then my hand injury. My first match after that was actually better than I expected because I had no expectations. The second one was a train wreck because of "I got it " mentality. I did shoot a classifier at 95% last Sunday perhaps because I finally practiced on Saturday or most likely because it was a low key match with no pressure and I got lucky. Anyways it feels good to be back.