I actually cringe almost every single time I hear anyone talk about "feel" when it comes to guns, because 99.9789857% of the time they have not idea what they are talking about and have made or are about to make a poor choice.
As noted in the past "the timer doesn't lie". I know several people who have told me that the small grip on their M&P "feels" better, but they they shoot the gun noticably better in time and/or accuracy with the large grip installed.
Two quotes I stole from the LF forum are "Feel will be important when they make a gun that feels like a C cup", and "buying a gun by feel at the gun counter without ever shooting it is like buying a car after sitting in one on the showroom floor while making "vroom vroom" noises".