To that point, several times DB has mentioned working with and knowing high drive type LE that transitioned to the J Frame lifestyle upon retirement for that reason. I specifically remember him telling the story of a guy he knew that was sitting in a coffee shop not long after retiring who recognized a wanted bad guy sitting in there having coffee as well. He said if he’d had his duty gun on he’d have attempted to hold him until help arrived but having “just” a J Frame he decided walking out the door and calling someone he knew at “the office” to handle things was the better plan.
It’s the same concept but with the “family unit”. If I see something (or someone) odd while we’re out eating and I tell her we need to leave now, I guarantee there’s going to be at least 1 round of 20 questions before she gets up and maybe another round as we’re leaving. OTOH if we’ve already discussed why I might make that call and what she needs to do, then she knows 20 questions can wait until we’re in the car.
And I’d like to offer another thank you to @jlw for a quality and entertaining podcast. I can’t always listen the day it drops but I try to catch it within a day or two on Spotify.