I think this is an important topic. Particularly for those newer to shooting, regardless of age.
In any physical endeavor there are going to be people that are biologically pre-disposed to that endeavor and those that aren’t. You can’t be a dwarf and expect to play in the NBA. Everyone knows this. It’s also why women’s sports exist. Can’t compete. Even in shooting, something many may not consider highly physically demanding, even at the highest level, there’s still a men’s and a women’s trophy. Am I gonna get beat by a Miculek girl? You betcha. But she still gets beat by her dad at twice her age.
For the most part, humans do what makes them feel good, and doing well at something makes you feel good, and you do well at things you’re naturally good at. When you look at someone that’s having success at a high level, it’s likely because they have more natural ability than others. Yes, they still have to put in the work to reach the top, but the entire endeavor stems from a natural ability in the first place.
All of that to say, just like women getting depressed because they don’t look like supermodels, don’t hold yourself to some achievement you see on the internet. At the end of the day you have to do you, and that is going to include a formula based on money, time, physical limitations, natural ability, etc.
For years I beat myself up about various issues with handgun shooting. I’d engage in training, practice, dryfire, etc. etc. and while I’d see some improvement, it never was remarkable.however, I did well at rifle shooting and, besides the fact that rifle is easier, could also see more gains in performance with similar regimen around training and practice. I taught people to shoot pistils better than I can because I understand the fundamentals there’s just some disconnect in executing them.
My right arm was shredded in a car accident when I was 19, and I just kept assuming that the issue was me, not the arm. It finally occurred to me that the flinch was largely because it actually hurts. Some of my other issues were related to the way the muscles were stitched back together almost 30 years ago.
I agree with what @
JCN said about finding games and pursuits that you enjoy and that work with whatever physical limitations you may have. I’m loving the PCC explosion in various action shooting games. My wife and I discovered sporting clays and that’s been a great hobby for the two of us. I don’t *need* to be a grandmaster with a pistol.