I had the privilege of seeing Lt. Col. Grossman speak after my first deployment to Afghanistan. The Marine Corps had sent combat veterans to a convention to see him speak and discuss our combat experiences with one another. Most of us in the audience had taken someone's life or had been involved in a gun fight that had led to someone's life being taken. I was 19 at the time and had not fully processed what it meant to take a life or the lasting effects it could have, even though I had experienced it. So being vulnerable, I will say that it has had a lasting and sometimes catastrophic effect on my life. Not just the act of taking a life but almost having mine taken. I am 31 now, my last gun fight was 10 years ago and I still have nightmares about the actual fight or in my dreams will and do have sit down conversations with the men involved in said gun fights. The act of killing is easy, living with it is much, much harder. I hope to have a discussion about what it actually means to take a life, the ramifications of that, and how to push past it.
I am successful now, I have a career, but I still feel like an outlier amongst others because of it. I know others feel the same way.
Sorry tough night and needed to vent.