I am not taking it as some kind of criticism at all.
I think you are misunderstanding that we are trying to push a narrative that snubs in an NPE are more likely to be useful, than carrying a full size gun with a reload when you can dress in any manner. The point I was making - and not to speak for him but what I think Darryl was saying as well - was what I said in my opening statement when I got on the podcast (and I was NOT LATE BTW, they started earlier than we said we would!) that you need to think about your context and truly examine what scenarios you as an individual may face. The point I made in my earlier writing was that there is no such thing as "typical" because we are different, and our contexts are different. Even in LE alone, the type of gunfight a SWAT cop would face is going to be intrinsically different than what a lone patrol officer in a sparsely populated area will face. And what I may most plausibly experience as someone who spends a lot of time in a car driving for hours at a time will look far different than what someone who lives in a densely populated and congested urban zone like the middle of NYC will encounter.
As Darryl said, if you expect a violent encounter to look/feel like a specific way, and it is not that way, it could be a disaster. So don't accept that there is something typical, and instead think about your reality. Prepare, train, and gear up to what fits you. If running a Roland Special fits you, than rock on! But if it does not, then don't feel bad and think you need to mold yourself into what someone else, who die snot live your life and has no conception of what you experience, tell you what you should do.