Agreed.
One of the requirements when I obtained a NY permit years ago was that in addition to the references if you lived with a spouse, other family such as parents, or a co-habitant boy/girlfriend you had to have them sign a notarized form that they were aware you were applying for a permit and that they were ok with you having a handgun in the residence.
Re: the geographic proximity of references - it is an antiquated requirement based on the technology available to vet and interact with people a century ago when many of these requirements were first imposed.