right on *fist bump*
I'm in a townhouse-style condo, so a lot of that is taken care of through the monthly HOA fees or in extreme and infrequent situations, assessments shared by the community. The downside obviously being that resale isn't as profitable as a "real" townhouse or especially a single family home, but hey, even if I break even I'm happy compared to renting. I've also resigned myself to the fact that breaking even when it comes time to sell the place is the best I can hope for given I'm buying at what is likely the top of a bubble and end of a two-decade long booming expansion of the NCR, so if I end up making money on it at all then that's just icing on the cake.
I've had several people at work tell me they like to rent so they can invest more money which earns a higher return than real estate, and I don't think they understand that 1) You're still throwing away ~30% of your income that you'll see NO gain on at all, not to mention you won't even get it back at all, and 2) You're not investing more. As you pointed out, it's a game based what you can afford in a month....so if you're paying $2500 in rent, that doesn't mean you're investing more than if you were paying $2500 in a mortgage...quite literally you're investing more through buying since the property is an investment, and you still have the freedom to put the leftover discretionary income towards an ETF if you so choose just the same as if you were renting. The only difference is that similar to leasing a car, you have historically been able to get a "nicer" place by renting than buying given the same monthly limit, but I think that ends up being a matter of coming to terms with what is realistically within one's means rather than being a factor anyone should be making a decision on when deciding to rent vs buy.