Read more, or shoot more.
You keep referring to revolvers, then back tracking and saying j frames with the worst sights and grips available. No wonder your limited experience has left you so verbal on revolvers.
Good sights and grips are a thing. Infact, good grips are infinitely better. They are even more customizable.
I have as many autos as revolvers. All autos have good aftermarket sights on them but Ive found my absolute favorite...on a revolver. With grips that are perfect as well. A nice wide U notch with a tritium front.