Reloading really is the answer for the .357
My favourite loads are 125gr REM SJHP and XTPs loaded in front of 2400 powder for 1325fps in a 4.2” barrel.
I also load a .38-44 with 140gr XTPs and H110 for 1140fps
Both of these recoil about perfectly and show a marked improvement in power over 9mm