All three of my children, one girl and two boys, always new I had their back, but they also knew who was in charge. I may have had their back but I'd also have their ass when they screwed the pooch. From the day they were born they knew there was a food chain in the house with them on the bottom. Now, they're all productive adults, with two of them married and raising kids of their own. No one has a criminal record or an addiction and they all call regularly for advice. Now we're friends and it's pretty nice.