I've had the discussion regarding the tactical ejector rod smack vs a one finger engagement of the rod with several high speed practitioners of the defensive manipulation (vs. competition) of the revolver. Almost everyone agrees with you regarding the smack, vs one finger. However, I do it differently
I bring the revolver back to mid-chest level, while doing so I engage the cylinder release with my left index (trigger) finger. Upon release I push the cylinder out with my right thumb, pushing my thumb all the way through and allowing the revolver to pivot on my thumb. I take all four fingers of my right hand and wrap them below and around the trigger guard. Positive control of the gun has now transferred to my right hand.
At this time I will remove my left hand from the gun, retrieve a speedloader or speedstrip (both of which I carry on my left/strong side. AT THE SAME TIME, I use my right index finger to engage the ejector rod, wih a double pump. I then slide my index finger down the side of the ejector rod placing it so that I have my index finger on one side, and my middle finger on the other and rotate my wrist so the gun is pointed muzzle down at about an 85 degree angle.
This all takes place at the same time I am extracting a speedloader/speedstrip. If it's a speedloader in a belt carrier, by the time I have the gun oriented in a muzzle down position, the speedloader is in place to be inserted in the cylinder. After I insert and release the cartridges, I toss the speedloader with a wrist snap while at the same time closing the cylinder with my right hand.
Now I can grip the gun with my left hand, assuming a strong hand only grip, with my right hand oriented fingers under and around the trigger guide, it takes a slight movement to reassume the correct position for a two-hand grip, which is done as I bring the gun back up to a shooting position.
Average time from last shot-reload-first shot is about 1.5-1.75 seconds. I used to be faster but let's not discuss the slowing down that increasing age and lack of practice has brought.
FWIW, I have only had one time where I had to slap the ejector rod to extract a case, which turned out to be split from one too many reloads. I have enough hand strength to push the ejector rod forcefully with one finger. The double pump will clear any cases that hang up, which is also a rare occurance.
It took me a LOT longer to type this than it does to do it! This is the first time I've sat down and wrote out the process step by step.
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