Technical excellence supports tactical preparedness
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Byron, I would be really sad if you completely left. I get not being as interested in participating at times. But I would not want to see you leave, from here or anywhere.
Technical excellence supports tactical preparedness
Lord of the Food Court
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Butthurt can be a disease, but there is a cure, and probably more importantly, preventative medicine.
1. Be honest. Bullshitters get called out, mocked, trolled. If you try, and are honest, it is easy to own the few mistakes that you do make and everyone forgives you. And if they won't, they probably will look like an asshole.
2. Must have sense of humor. If you can't/don't laugh at yourself, other people will. Just like in the rest of life, people who take themselves or some certain thing way too seriously and have like, no sense of humor that they are aware of, are very vulnerable to needling, trolling, etc. If you can mock yourself and have a sense of humor even about things that are important to you, people trying to make you feel bad are basically powerless.
3. People respond in kind. Want to get niceness out of someone? Being nice to them is a persistently effective way to do that.
4. Strip language and syntax of remarks about the other person, their thoughts (which you can't know with certainty), their motivations. Doggedly sticking to the issue at hand helps people leave their ego out of how they respond to you.
Technical excellence supports tactical preparedness
Lord of the Food Court
http://www.gabewhitetraining.com
5. Phrase things in terms of your own unassailable experience. Don't tell people how things work or are going to work for them. Tell them how your have experienced them to work for you and phrase it that way. Use the phrase "I think" a lot, because we all KNOW very little with certainty.
Technical excellence supports tactical preparedness
Lord of the Food Court
http://www.gabewhitetraining.com
I'm gonna say it right now, real talk -
No one needs to leave.
Be it Byron, VoodooMan, Nyeti, your mama, whatever - If you have an issue with someone put them on ignore. There are a couple of people here, who rub me the wrong way, so I stick them on ignore. In doing so, it lessens the temptation to slam "Reply with Quote"!!!! and start an argument. Note I didn't say stop, I can still read ignored people's posts, but having to click the button and do so gives me a mental pause and makes me question if I really want to do it. It also makes me stop and consider the content of the post not just the tone.
Initially, I had words with Darryl (a while ago) where we disagree philosophically about how to approach certain topics that have (almost nothing) to do with shooting, but topics both of us are passionate about. I had to ignore him for a while and I suspect he did the same. Then I realized that Darryl and I do share more than a few common likes - revolvers, shotguns, viking helmets, and fighting naked. Also, he lives in my hometown and loves my favorite gun shop. How can I dislike a man who I have so many things in common with? I can't. Yea, we disagree on how to do some things, but hell if we agreed on everything life would be boring. I've come to respect the man enough through seeing his interactions here, that when I get the chance to take a month or two off next summer to help my dad build his new garage in Dallas, I will take a HiTS class, and get some training in with him and Wayne.
Let's be practical here. Tone means a lot, sure it absolutely does. But you can do two things about someone else's tone - Jack and Shit. What you can do, is back off and think about their critiques, analyze them, and determine if they fit what you need or how you understand a subject. If they don't, come back with a carefully worded respectful response. Or you know, fight it out via PM or whatever.
-Rob
Last edited by RevolverRob; 09-17-2015 at 02:21 PM.