I'm sure this is something many here have done, although perhaps on,y once or twice, so I thought it might be interesting to compare notes.
The last time I did this I bought a stock Glock 19, a drop/offset holster, a belt, and mag pouches and sent my GF to a Randy Cain 2-day ladies only handgun course. Eventually the gun went to Boresight Solutions for an extreme grip reduction, and now appears to have some sort of big orange square front sight on it (which I may have actually installed before the class, can't recall), unsure of the trigger but definitely a G17 bar and feels lighter than stock, vickers mag button, stock slide stop. Still have the gun, don't have the girl (she died, so please hold the smart remarks).
This time around my intent is to be pretty much the same to start except that I intend to outfit the gun with the sights, trigger, slide stop, and mag release that I like because (a) I'm still more likely to actually ever shoot the gun and (b) I think standardizing is good and (c) I think she'll benefit from the same modifications as I find they make the gun easier to shoot.
My question is, do you advocate for giving a new shooter, particularly a woman, especially one that is unlikely to actually shoot the gun beyond initial training and other possible "forced" events, a gun that is stock or a gun that is modified? If modified, to what criteria?
If this was a dude, that I thought was interested in getting serious about shooting, I'd probably advocate for starting with a stock gun and modifying as-needed. But given that this is a somewhat reluctant shooter (she wants a gun, may not want to shoot/practice/train much but can be encouraged), my thinking is that maybe it's best to set her up for success as much as possible to encourage continued participation. If it's easier for her to get hits, and manipulate the controls, right out of the gate then she might be more likely to get out and practice or even join me at matches, etc.
Thoughts? What have you done with your females in the past? How'd it turn out?