The 165gr full power Gold Dot was hot enough to start causing reliability issues with our gen 3 G22s, just throwing that out there.
I know a guy with big hands that had to ditch his G23 because he had shot it enough he was having nerve damage creep up in his shooting hand. Doc and I know of a tier one guy who will tell people he thinks the G22 is GTG, but that the .40 in anything smaller is a case of "the juice ain't worth the squeeze".
In the small .40s, if I had to run one, I'd go with 180gr or one of the mid range loadings, examples would be the other 165gr Gold Dot, or the Federal Tactical, etc.
My G23 has been 100% reliable with the 9mm conversion barrel in it, also, just throwing that out there.