Originally Posted by
jetfire
Given your parameters, you are looking for a unicorn. The current crop of 9mm revolvers is three or four large frame competition oriented revolvers, and one Ruger LCR in 9mm which is certainly not easier to shoot than a j-frame. .38 Special ammo is reasonably affordable, so practice ammo won't break the bank once this is over. Plus, a .38 Special revolver eliminates the need for moonclips, which a 9mm revolver requires to function. Third, a steel framed j-frame in .38 Special firing 148gr lead wadcutters is actually quite pleasant to shoot, even for a neophyte.
"Reasonably concealable" in this context sounds like a holster gun, which opens us up to the world of 3 inch guns, like the S&W Model 60 Pro Series or the Ruger SP101 3 inch with Novak sights. If you really want to keep it as simple as possible, the 2.25 inch DAO SP101 would be my choice. Steel frame = heavier, so felt recoil is minimized, and with 130gr FMJ for practice and 148 wadcutters for carry it's easy to shoot.